Showing posts with label Jay. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jay. Show all posts

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Merry Everything!



I sent my first Christmas Newsletter with our card this year, because in the past, I relied on letting people browse here, but I've been busy with other things.  I miss the blog, but cannot foresee more time next year either.  I'm guessing most of my readers have already seen this, but my blog is more of a personal history document for myself, so bear with me.

  I should probably not be writing this letter right now….

Waking up to a 5-year old face thoroughly coated in green marker (“[The Frog] did it!”) and a Christmas tree whose lights are now unlightable (“it wasn’t me!”), tends to leave me waxing sarcastic.  Nevertheless, too much has changed and not enough blogging has happened for me to feel we’ve really tried to stay connected with you without some kind of (adjective) Christmas newsletter.

We began the year in Poughkeepsie area, New York, adjusting to our new life there.  Jay had a visiting position at Vassar College and was meanwhile applying for tenure-track positions elsewhere.  37 phone interviews, over 50 flights, and 5 offers later, by June, we were thrilled to have purchased a home in none other than Jay’s hometown - Dunstable, MA!  He is now an associate professor at his undergraduate alma mater - University of Massachusetts Lowell and is enjoying his first semester “professing” there.  Ever on the lookout for efficiency, he has recently taken to running on the treadmill while lugging a 15 lb backpack and is sure it has not only improved his posture but increased the impressiveness of his thighs.  (ok, so I just threw that in that last bit.)  Jay has been loving his new calling at church - teaching early morning seminary (a 6 am religion class for high school students from our church) and I get the sense that they are loving him as well. He continues to give me everything I want and always let me win, so I think he’s pretty awesome.  Plus, if you google his name, he’s the first 2 hits!

The Frog (7 years old), after a year of homeschooling, is now enrolled in 2nd grade and commented to me that he is the only one in his class who said he likes school on his “All About Me” poster.  He continues to wake the family before the crack of dawn and is happiest when he’s rough-housing, thumping and accidentally breaking things (at least that’s what it seems like) or pretending to be his favorite TV/movie/book characters.  He has taught his sisters how to wield swords and use potty words at inappropriate times.  We have finagled his way into the Cub Scout Wolf Den a year early (so he can come with me to my new church calling as a Den leader), and he enjoys those rambunctious meetings immensely.  I was pleasantly surprised to hear from his 2nd grade teacher that he is an excellent reader and so has been paired up with a boy in the class who is special needs because, “[The Frog] is such a helpful sweetheart.”  I am, though dumbfounded, obviously proud and will take as much credit as possible.  He keeps us on our toes and keeps losing all his teeth.  I well-up almost daily, mourning the loss of my 1st baby, while being pleased at how he has grown in so many ways.

Peach (5 years) has started half-day kindergarten.  She is always the first to make friends with new people and loves riding on the school bus.  She loves procuring costumes, stuffed animals and other miscellany from her tiny backpack, like rabbits from hats.  Indeed, she is known for quietly stashing every small trinket she finds in unsuspecting locations.  (Who expects to find a Nauvoo souvenir brick under their pillow?!)  Peach loves picking out her own wild outfits, and finally lets me comb her hair (thankfully!) as long as she gets to choose the hairstyle. Last week, we had to mimic Cindy-Lou Who. She has an aptitude for making her whole body as stiff as a board when upset, and makes it very clear when things are not going according to her plan.  Luckily, her younger sister is usually content to play their pretend games Peach's way and can often be heard taking part in their play dialogue exactly as instructed.  Peach is by far the funniest in the family and when she’s not trying to get her way, can be extremely helpful and loving. She loves to cuddle and has thrashed her “blankie” to bits.  I am relieved to have discovered she is more willing to clear her dishes if I close my eyes and act surprised when they’re missing.  

Hazel (3) is the baby of the family, but sadly, no longer a baby.  She is very proud of being a “big girl” and has been my most willing potty-trainer, by far.  She is a thorough cleaner, when she wants to be, and likes things to be organized.  Sometimes I catch her rearranging the silverware in the dishwasher so that all the forks don't mix with the spoons.  She loves turning heads into smiles at the grocery store and asks to sit on the green horse on the mini merry-go-round outside (although less so now, after seeing another child ride it while it actually moves and plays music).  She must always have her purse when we go out (though she still can’t open it without help) and is the reason I can never find my chapstick.  Hazel somehow knows the whole alphabet and thinks she can write her name.  She gives the tightest hugs and the best wet, suction kisses and unlike her siblings, prefers cereal to pancakes for breakfast.  She enjoys placing stickers on her bellybutton (and on the wood floors and furniture) and drawing on her body and everywhere BUT paper- the markers have finally been confiscated.  She is quick to remind me that “sharing is caring” whenever I have a sweet treat and has the greatest sweet tooth of anyone I know.  Perhaps that is why she is so sweet.  :)

This year, we somehow ended up hosting another foreign exchange student, this time from La Paz, Bolivia.  It’s been so fun to have a teenager in the house!  Monica (16) has brought music back into our home, works hard, and plays hard.  She is the classic case of a city girl being forced to live in the country, and is making the most of it.  Since coming to the USA, she has had a lot of firsts such as trick-or-treating, seeing a coyote, seeing all the Star Wars movies and being tackled (and tickled) by small children.  She has learned how to ride a bike, become addicted to bagels, visited Maine, New York City, and Boston (several times).  She has observed an eclipse, submitted a photo to the Boston Globe Scholarship photography competition and walked almost 5 miles by herself to get to the nearest mall.  She joined the cross-country team and though claims to hate running, keeps running on our treadmill many times per week.  She has mastered the art of the “selfie” and I am surprised at how many friends she has made so quickly.  She is a great addition to our family and we love her spunk and playful, teasing nature.

In January, I took my first flight sans kids after having children (I got to read!! on a plane!!) to visit my dear college roommate in the Bay Area and catch up with some other old friends.  I gained a huge amount of respect for single parents everywhere while Jay was constantly gone during his many many professorial interviews.  I also had a mini college reunion with friends in NYC!  After the second move in 1 year, I think I finally know how to do it properly, though am loudly hoping I won’t have to use my new knowledge anytime soon.  I (with a LOT of help from my mother-in-law) painted our entire house and installed baseboards on the third floor while gaining a new love for the mitre saw (again, with a LOT of help, this time from my father-in-law).  I also took up the ukulele and piano tuning.  I accidentally got a small part-time job tutoring high school math and science, which has been so much fun for me.  I’ve also been dabbling in accounting classes and am hoping to keep slowly pursuing a CPA, one class at a time, with my new “dependent’s discount” at UMass Lowell.  

If you’re reading this letter, we must think you’re great and hope you will let us know if you are in the Boston area (or would like to be!).  It would be great to catch up in person and we love having guests!!  We hope this letter finds you well and thriving!  

Merry Everything!

Love,
    Jay, Libby, The Frog, Peach, Hazel & Monica


Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Merry Christmas 2014

I can't believe how busy life is with homeschooling!  I am so behind on updating the blog.  I suppose I should have known... but really!!

The Frog has joined the Tiger Cub Scouts, which he loves.  He just earned his Bobcat badge and really liked touring the local firehouse.  He loves to read picture books out loud to himself every night.  His favorite things to do are put together large lego sets at Gampie's house and play Minecraft :)

Peach got glasses!  She looks adorable and sees better too :)  She loves playing pretend and incorporating characters from the latest books we are reading into her play (right now, Pippi Longstocking). Lately, she loves to show off her dance moves to whoever will watch- particularly ballet and Irish step-dancing.

Hazel really wants to be a part of all the homeschooling and requests that we teach her the alphabet (which she almost knows completely now).  She also brings me my phone to punch in the code so she can "do game".  She knows how to navigate my phone and find all the activities she likes on it by herself!  She especially likes watching home movies (particularly of herself).

Jay has had long days this semester with a late-night class twice a week, but next semester he should be home more, for which we are all grateful.  He loves the students and the beautiful Vassar campus.  (our photos below were taken there) He is a programming monkey and has been doing some fun, innovative stuff, particularly with music:  he wrote an 80s style synthesizer, and a program that writes musical scores.  Every time I turn around, it seems like he's proved a new theorem.  We are all very proud of him and how hard he works for our family.  I am especially grateful for how much cleaning slack he has taken over with my lack of time due to homeschooling.

Aside from school for the kids, I have been keeping busy playing the piano for the ward choir, and the primary, and helping out in the Relief Society here in our new ward.  I'm feeling blessed to have nice neighbors with kids similar ages to our own.

Moving has been a big adjustment for everyone, but I feel so blessed that the children have adjusted better than I expected.  It has been hard, but already I have learned a lot and grown from the difficulties.  Since we are renting, we know moving is eminent and I feel it will be much easier next time.

We hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Monday, November 11, 2013

Parent Conversation

MAN, I've been doing a terrible job at posting...  things have just become so busy and I've allowed myself to sleep in until the kids wake up to get over this darn cold, so I am just perpetually behind (says the laundry that sat unfolded in a bin for 4 days).  To give you a feel for how things are going around here, this little incident occurred yesterday:

Me: (on my way out the door for a Young Women leadership meeting)  Jay, can you just make peanut butter sandwiches for the kids for lunch?  I'll see you at church! Thanks! Bye!

Jay: (via text message 10 minutes later) we don't have any bread.

I can't believe I still haven't reported on Halloween...

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

I'm getting old...

I'm a bit behind posting things...
Jay had a strangely adventurous idea- to hike Timpanogos at night, while our kids were sleeping, and arrive at the top for the sunrise.  This would be the best time to be away from Hazel for so long, since she still nurses.  We are so lucky to have a girl in the neighborhood who was willing to sleep over at our house!!

It was so cute how Jay planned out how much water and how many calories we would need for the hike, and had packed up a backpack with both of our stuff. :)

Although we had both hiked timp once before (separately), unfortunately, neither one of us had hiked it when we were really paying attention to where the trail was.  It turns out, the Stewart Falls trailhead stems from the same parking lot, and in the dark, we set off, at about 11:45pm, there first.  

We got to the end, thinking we couldn't find the rest of the trail.  Then I spotted where we came from and said, "Oh here it is!"  (turns out, hiking in the dark can be confusing, despite our awesome/dorky headlamps)
So we headed back and then realized that we were retracing our steps.  Luckily, we had cell service, and Jay did a little research and found out that, yes, there was another trailhead and we had taken the wrong one. :(

We got back to the parking lot about 2 hours later.  We decided, we could still make it, and made our way up the right trail this time.  However, hence the title of this post, after about 5 minutes of steep incline, I started getting the same feeling a got a lot during this past pregnancy- a strange pain in my right leg/groin area, every time I had to lift my leg.  It wasn't too bad at first, and we had come all this way, so I didn't want to say anything about it.  However, after about 2 hours of hiking, it became unbearable and I knew that even if I could make it to the top, there's no way I'd be able to make it back.

Jay was a good sport and made no issue about turning around.  (and I'm so glad we did!  My leg really hurt the rest of that day!  Happily, it was completely fine when I woke up the next day)

Turns out that hiking down in the dark is much trickier than hiking up!
Even though we didn't make it all the way up, it was still fun to sneak off in the night and be "wild" and adventurous :)  I thought we had better document the night with us in our glory.  (and me sans makeup...)

If you ever want to do it yourself, just be sure you don't take the trail clearly marked "Stewart Falls" (not as clear in the dark...) and dress warmly.  It was much colder than I had expected.

Monday, July 1, 2013

Happy Birthday Jay!

I'm Back!!

I had a bunch of posts scheduled that I was supposed to finish and have automatically put up while we were visiting Jay's fam in Massachusetts the past couple of weeks, but I failed miserably.  (but I don't care because I'm so excited to post many many photos I took while there...)

Really quickly, here's a pic from Jay's birthday!  
The Frog wanted to put the candles in.  I thought it would be a great counting exercise (28 is pretty high for a 4-year old, right?) until I realized he wasn't really counting.  I made him call it quits.
I counted them after and there ended up being 29.  Pretty good eh?

To the best husband.  ever.  period.  you have my whole heart and then some :)

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Some pics

Right now, Hazel has four standard positions:

1) grabbing feet
2) gripping the sides of the changing table like she's in for an exciting ride
3) grabbing anything within reach and munching on it (or munching her hands if nothing else is within reach)
4) reverently clasping her hands
I wanted to get a picture of the hand-clasping, the other day, and Peach wanted to be in it too...
Then, of course, The Frog didn't want to be left out...
The best family photo so far!  Perhaps I have found a new method to get them to cooperate- leave them out!

After dishes were cleaned up, we went for a walk around the block, to take a neighbor some bread.  (they just had a baby)  The Frog picked out his own necessary gear:
he refused to wear matching shoes.  a first for him.
I love that we passed so many neighbors while we were out (it was such a beautiful day!) and they all played along with his disguise...  "who's that super hero riding around on that bike?"

The neighbors with the new baby also have a little dog.  Peach greatly anticipated getting to pet him.  Unfortunately, when they opened the door, the dog took off running to their back yard and Peach tried to follow, but then almost immediately tripped and face-planted on the cement.  She was sad, because it hurt, obviously, but was really trying to get out of my hug so she wouldn't miss petting that rascally dog :)
not a bloody nose, but a giant scratch that just looks like one.  she also has scrapes on her forehead and knees
She was basically fine, but then started crying later that night when she saw herself in the mirror.

kids.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Happy Birthday Jay!

Jay now gets to be a cube! (which won't happen again until he's 64...)  And I now get to feel like I'm only 1 year older than he is for a few months...

I feel like his birthday was a huge let down- for me... I spent a lot of time thinking about it and had all these plans and most of them just fell through.  I also forgot to take pictures of most of what did go on, but here are some I had the wherewithal enough to remember to get:
 The Frog, of course, wanted to put on the candles.  I tried to get him to group them into 2 and 7, but he wanted them evenly spaced and wouldn't stop after just 9.  So Jay got 2+7+1 to grow on.
 They must have all really wanted daddy to get his wish!

I thought I'd include one present pic- this is Jay after opening an envelope that contains an envelope that reads:
Herein lies the sex of baby McCarthy #3.  I bestow upon you the privilege and responsibility of doing with this information as you see fit.  Signed,
me.

Rest assured, if I find out the gender, you will too. :)

I love you honey!  I feel so robbed that I didn't get to know you during the first 21 years of your life.  The last 6 have been amazing!

Monday, January 30, 2012

Lindsay's Baby Shower

The "Melib" of Melibindsay got together to throw a baby shower for the "indsay", as she is now less than 6 weeks from her due date!  (which is Leap Day.  Wouldn't that be awesome?!)  We had tons of fun planning it!  The theme?  Alphabet.  

Here are the invites I designed just using Pages (one day I'll learn Photoshop... not today) and I printed them on the back side of different cute papers.  We went for the obvious color- pink (with gray accents).
 We put balloons on Mel's balcony to help people figure out which apartment to go to.  (I also included a map which I drew in Pages as well, but you don't get to see that.  It was cute though :D) Thanks, Mel, for hosting!  It was so nice not to have to clean my whole house AND make tons of food (because a clean house and tons of cooking never go hand-in-hand for me) :)
 We labeled the food "Ww is for Water" etc.
 The mini pies were actually really easy.  I used my favorite pie crust recipe, and this filling recipe, using the frozen berry medley from Costco.  The cupcakes were ones I had been wanting to try since I saw them here.  I admit, though, I used a boxed cake mix- I was doing so much from scratch, I scrimped there, but everyone still raved about them.
 I used this recipe for the Chicken Salad, which doesn't it look so pretty with those red grapes, green celery and brown cashews?  I made the shredded chicken ahead of time with this easy crock-pot recipe- which I love to use and then take the leftover juices and blend them with the veggies and use it for stock in other recipes.  The croissants were from Costco, although I would love to someday try and make croissants.  If they're that good from Costco, imagine how amazing they would be fresh!!  Anyone have a good recipe?
 Costco roses- one day I'll take flower arranging at BYU, but for now, I just have to rely on the flowers to speak for themselves :)
Mixed, fresh berries, veggie platter,
 Mel threw together a spinach, crasin, feta salad with walnuts on the side (since Lindsay's mom is allergic to nuts) and two dressings to choose from.
 I used my silhouette to cut out letters from the alphabet and then I sewed them together.  The sewed doily garland was reused from this shower.  The "table cloth" is a queen, fitted gray sheet :)
 To go with the alphabet theme, our prizes were little notebooks with a pen.
 And our party favor was 3 sugar cookies with "A", "B", and "C" piped on.  If we had to do it again, we would have put A on a small cookie, B on a medium and C on a large round one since we had to stack them to get them to fit in the cellophane bag. We originally wanted to have cookies cut out to be like the letters "A", "B", and "C", but it was really hard to find the letters we want.  Walmart and every chain craft store sells the same 101 cookie cutter set with the alphabet in it, but the letters are puny, so we had to improvise.
 We played 3 games: This one is called "My water broke"! (every baby shower needs at least one gross game, right?)  Everyone had to keep an eye on their cup throughout the shower and whoever's creepy baby emerges from the ice cube first had to yell "My water broke!"
 Yay Kellie!
 Our next game, was like baby/pregnancy/labor-terms scattergories, except we had Lindsay come up with a list of terms for each letter of the alphabet previously, and people would get a point if they chose the same term she did.  We ended up with a 5-way tie at 5 points and so gave the prize to whomever had filled in the most answers.
 Yay, Kelsey!
 Our last game was called "Makin' a baby" and everyone had to mold a baby from play dough.  Lindsay got to choose her favorite.
 Linds wanted to make one, even though she wasn't allowed to choose her own :)
Kate won, though accidentally knocked the head off right before the picture so she's holding it on here :)  (did anyone else notice the name of everyone who won started with "K"?)
 The haul.
 I felt like people were very generous.  Linds got some great loot!

 Here she is trying on the nursing cover I made her :)  I also made a carseat cover, which I'll post separately.
 Here's a pic of some of the old ballet girls.
And here's Melibindsay.
And finally, I want to make a shout out to an amazingly supportive husband who came home after work last Friday to a hurricane house, full of piles of clean laundry needing folding, migrant toys, a nice pile of dirty dishes, and a lame-o dinner to greet him (since I was in the kitchen all day doing shower prep).  I then ran off to Melissa's to put food together (with all said things still in place) and when I returned after midnight, he not only waited up for me, but had folded all the laundry and put it away, emptied the dishwasher, loaded it up and washed it all and put all the toys away.  (aaaand put the kids to bed by himself)  If that's not enough, I ran off Saturday morning, leaving him in a similar situation, and he watched the kids all day while I was at the shower, cleaned up the cupcake mess I left in the morning and didn't complain that I was too tired to make dinner when I got home.  (thank you Chinese take-out).

My man is THE. BEST.  I love you, Jay.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Happy Dad Week!

I may be so unlucky to have my anniversary and birthday on the same day, but somehow I think Jay is more of a trooper because he's a boy and the only two "celebrate Jay" days that occur every year usually fall in the same week: Father's Day and his birthday.  Perhaps I should cut him a break and give him the whole week- he certainly deserves it for being the best husband/dad ever.

Here "he" is opening his Father's Day loot:
 Doing one of his favorite activities with one of his favorite girls:


 Here's my "amazing" birthday cake.  If only I had amazing photography skills to make it look better than it did.  At least it tasted amazing!

Happy birthday!  So you're finally 26!  May your year be more interesting than your age.  (but not toooo interesting.)

Friday, November 5, 2010

The "Park"

We're trying to make use of warm weather days while they still exist. It's so fun (and at times terrifying) to be able to go to the park (or in this case, the elementary school playground) now that The Frog is brave enough to go down the slides alone.



I think Jay has fun too :)